The Search for         
The Search for Love

Inborn or Ill-advised
Self-defeating or Holy Grail
Many people are despairing of the possibility 
of finding love. And some of the people who 
are despairing the most are in their thirties
 and forties and looking just great.
~Marianne Williamson

I remember the days of my youth when 
everything was new and bright; when the 
mind was always questing, searching, 
absorbing; when the pain of love was so 
acute it could suffocate, and the days 
when joy was delirious.
~Jennifer Worth

When I was young, I couldn't imagine women 
of 60 falling in love. For one thing, people 
used to stay married; they weren't out in the 
jungle, searching for romance. Besides, 
these women just looked so ancient - permed hair, beige cardis.
~Deborah Moggach

It was important to me to have a wedding and walk in white, because sometimes we feel that at a certain age you should act a certain way. You can find love at any age. You just have to go for it.
~Tina Knowles

To walk down the aisle and see all my friends and family and to see my handsome man standin' there, and to know that at 61 you can still find love and have a magical day like that ... it was really beautiful.
~Tina Knowles

Personally, I think if a women hasn't met the right man by the time she's 24, she may be lucky.
~Oprah Winfrey


You're terrified of being alone. Anything you do now will be motivated by that fear. You have to stop worrying about finding love again. It will come when it comes. Get comfortable with being alone. It will empower you.
~Jonathan Tropper

I don't ever want to have to depend on a relationship. I think it's a really special thing to find love. It's beautiful. Nothing can match it. But I want to make sure that I find other things in life that I love besides . . . love.

I do not NEED a man. That was an impossible thought when I married John thirty years ago. It was unimaginable even seven years ago. I finally understand why lasting love has eluded me: the relationship I've been searching for all along was with myself.
~Shary Hauer


Having perfected our disguise, 
we spend our lives searching 
for someone we don't fool.
~Robert Breault

In this world, it is too common for 
people to search for someone to 
lose themselves in. But I am already 
lost. I will look for someone to find 
myself in.
~C JoyBell C

When you are lost in the right way, 
you don't go back to being found in 
the wrong way.
~Melody Lee


The fact is, you can't marry the best when you're dating the runner-up. While you're searching for Mr. Right, don't settle for Mr. Right Now.
~Craig Groeschel

One good man, one good man, it ain't much - it's only everything.
~Deborah Kerr

That's the mistake people make - always searching for the perfect match, when they would be just as happy if they settled for somebody reasonably good.
~Farahad Zama

Don't go looking for Mr. Right. Look for Mr. Right Now.
~Janis Joplin


One can beg, buy, be presented with and find love in the streets, but it can never be stolen.
~Hermann Hesse

No man is worth your tears, but once you find one that is, he won't make you cry.
~Dwight D Eisenhower


To find riches is a beggar’s dream, but to find love is the dream of kings.
~Sidney Sheldon

You can find love when you are famous if you are the same person you were before you were famous.
~Tamar Braxton


[On her mother:] My relationship with her is close, painful, and skaky, and I always have to keep searching for a sign of love. Everything I do, I do to please her, to make her smile, to ward off her fury. This work is extremely exhausting...
~Tove Ditlevsen

I had learned that there were substitutes for a mother who couldn't be a mother. You could find love with other people. You could find it in places you weren't even looking. But the original wound would never heal. I would carry it with me forever, and so would Tara. That was the trick . . . accepting it, going on with your life, knowing it was part of you.
~Lisa Kleypas


Anyone who falls in love is searching for the missing pieces of themselves.
~Haruki Murakami

The cynic finds love with the idealist. The rebel with the conformist. The social butterfly with the bookworm. They help each other balance their lives.
~Joyce Brothers

We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness — and call it love
~Robert Fulghum

You've got to take risks if you want to find love.
~Zayn Malik

And when you find love, or when you are mature enough to understand it, the feeling you get is gratitude.
~Donald Miller


To the world you may be just one person but to one person you may be the world.
~Tim Robbins

May you find INSPIRATION in the big picture, but may you find LOVE in the details.
Adrienne Maloof


Eight full lives,” I whispered against his jaw, my voice breaking. “Eight full lives and I never found anyone I would stay on a planet for, anyone I would follow when they left. I never found a partner. Why now? Why you? You're not of my species. How can you be my partner?” 
~Stephanie Meyer

How does a guy look at another 
guy's hairy ass, and find love?
~Sam Kinison

Who would have ever thought I'd 
find love, contentment and joy in a 
prison cell, but I did. I knew that I 
knew that I knew that day, I'd been 
released, and I thought to myself, 
"I need to tell everyone about this" 
because no one had ever told me.
~Christian Hosoi


If you become a little alert you will find love, light, laughter, everywhere.

Where intuition finds, love follows, and memory and all the soul as well.
~Meister Eckhart

We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
~Sam Keen


Where there is love, there is no question. Where there is a question, there is no love... My dear folks, if you cannot find yourself, you can never find anybody you want to find.
~Harbhajan Singh Yogi

The hardest situation to stay happy in, I think, is when you're trying to find love, and yourself at the same time. It just doesn't seem to fit well.
~Sophia Bush

When the mind stops searching, when it stops wanting refuge, when it no longer goes in search of security, when it no longer craves more books and information, when it ignores even the memory of desire, only then will Love arrive within.
~Samael Aun Weor


Finding love is a two-part process. The first part is to find the right person. The second part is to be the right person.
~Mavis Leno

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
~Khalil Gibran

Some people never find love at all, count yourself blessed if it ever happens your way
~Ellen Hopkins

Wherever I find love I will accept it.
~M F Husain


I find love from time to time.
~Lynn Redgrave


If you work at love, you will find love at work.
~Peter Jackson


A man finds love and is satisfied. A woman finds love and insists on turning it into happiness.
~Robert Breault


Don't find love, let it find you. It's called yourself to fall, you just do.
~Taylor Swift

Gravitation is not responsible for people 
falling in love.
~Albert Einstein


The road to finding 'the one' is paved 
with a bit of promiscuity.
~Tim Robbins

Maybe love is like luck. You have to
 go all the way to find it.
~Robert Mitchum

You don't have to lower your morals 
to find love because, if you do, it's 
not love that you're finding.
~Jason Evert


To find love I must enter into the sanctuary where it is hidden, which is the mystery of God.
Thomas Merton

A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.
Max Lucado


I really think that technology has the greatest potential to accelerate happiness of most things in the world. The companies that will ultimately do well are the companies that chase happiness. If you find a way to help people find love, or health or friendship, the dollar will chase that.
~Ashton Kutcher


When you fish for love, bait with your heart, not your brain.
~Mark Twain


Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it.
~Robert Mitchum


When lovers kiss on the cheeks, it is because they are searching, feeling for one another's lips. Lovers are made by a kiss.
~Emile Zola


People spend their lives searching for their one true love, their other half. I found mine in college, dancing in a fraternity house driveway. Lucky for me, she found me right back.
~Jack Carter

Love isn't something you find. Love is something that finds you.
~Loretta Young

To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to love someone who loves you is everything.
~Bill Russell


In Mexico people wear hummingbird amulets around their necks to show they are searching for love. Here people pretend that they aren't. Searching.
~Francesca Lia Block

Americans... are forever searching for love in forms it never takes, in places it can never be. It must have something to do with the vanished frontier.
~Kurt Vonnegut


They say true love only comes around once 
and you have to hold out and be strong until then. 
I have been waiting. I have been searching. 
I am a man under the moon, walking the streets of earth until dawn. 
There's got to be someone for me. It's not too much to ask. 
Just someone to be with. Someone to love. 
Someone to give everything to. 
~Henry Rollins/Eric Clapton

Love is universal migraine, 
A bright stain on the vision 
Blotting out reason. 
Symptoms of true love 
Are leanness, jealousy, 
Laggard dawns; 
Are omens and nightmares - 
Listening for a knock, 
Waiting for a sign: 
For a touch of her fingers 
In a darkened room, 
For a searching look. 
Take courage, lover! 
Could you endure such pain 
At any hand but hers?
~Robert Graves

I don't condemn and I don't convert. 
I've been searching through books and bibles 
to find what this life is worth, 
and I've made up my mind: 
Love is my religion. 
You can take it or leave it, 
and you don't have to believe it. 
Love is my religion
~Ziggy Marley


I detest the idea that love between two persons can lead to salvation. All my life I have fought against this oppressive type of relationship. Instead, I believe in searching for a kind of love that somehow involves all of humanity.
~Rainer Werner Fassbinder

So the first thing to be reminded of: love is never a relationship. Then something else is masquerading as love. Maybe you are searching for a husband or a wife - you are searching for some security, you are searching for some structure. A structured life is a murdered life.


Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.
~Emily Bronte

Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.


It's so ironic that life is all about love, yet we live most of it either searching, never finding, or messing it up.
~Behdad Sami

are you saying that the feeling of searching for a missing sock is like searching for love?
~Cecelia Ahern

Those that go searching for love only make manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek for it.
~D H Lawrence  


The secret of the Great Stories is that they have no secrets. The Great Stories are the ones you have heard and want to hear again. The ones you can enter anywhere and inhabit comfortably... in the Great Stories you know who lives, who dies, who finds love, who doesn't. And yet you want to know again.
~Arundhati Roy

What the poet is searching for is not the fundamental I, but the deep you.
~Antonio Machado


I did the searching and remembering, she did the disappearing and the forgetting.
~Ann Brashares

I never went to Albuquerque expecting to find love. I thought it had found me there, followed me home. I never came home expecting to lose love in the space of one brief telephone call. Is it always so short-lived?
~Ellen Hopkins

Where did all those feelings go? People spend their whole lives looking for love. Poems and songs and entire novels are written about it. But how can you trust something that can end as suddenly as it begins?
~Nicola Yoon

There is so much hurt in this game of searching for a mate, of testing, trying. And you realize suddenly that you forgot it was a game, and turn away in tears.
~Sylvia Plath

When you go in search of honey you must expect to be stung by bees.
~Joseph Joubert

Oh, go in anywhere Colonel, go in anywhere. You'll find lovely fighting all along the line.
~Philip Kearny

The only place you're sure to find love is at the end of a letter from your mother.
~Bruce Lansky

What we seek is some kind of compensation for what we put up with.
~Haruki Murakami


I need honor and love in my life from somebody who's playin' for keeps. What I'm searching for is a man who'll stand by me: who will walk through the fire and be my flame in the night. I won't settle for less than what I deserve: a friend and a lover who'll love me for the rest of my life.
~LeAnn Rimes

Because you aren't just someone I loved back then. You were my best friend, my best self, and I can't imagine giving that up again.
~Nicholas Sparks

You can't love a person till you know him or her inside out, until you've lived with them and shared experience: sadness, joy, living - you've got to share living before you can find love. Being in love doesn't last, but you can find love to take its place.
~Stan Barstow

True love stories never have endings.
~Richard Bach


Love seems to be the appreciation that we are all little lumps in the same earthly soup which is a little lump in a larger cosmic soup. So, love is an awareness of this beautiful energetic relationship and a natural appreciation of this situation. It doesn't seem to be a matter of finding's a matter of being aware of it. It's not a question of invention but rather discovery.
~Ken Dychtwald

A person desperately searching for love," Merlin said, "reminds me of a fish desperately searching for water.
~Deepak Chopra

Love is not what you want, it is what you are. It is very important to not get these two confused. If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching for it all over the place. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal.
~Neale Donald Walsch


Your body needs to be held and to hold, to be touched and to touch. None of these needs is to be despised, denied, or repressed. But you have to keep searching for your body's deeper need, the need for genuine love.
~Henri Nouwen

They were now both ready, not to begin from scratch, but to continue with a love that had survived for thirteen years in hibernation. They were no longer travellers without baggage. They were no longer twenty. They'd both been around the block a bit and had suffered without the other. They'd both lost their way without the other. Each had tried to find love with other people. But all that was now finished.
~Guillaume Musso 

My heart might be bruised, but it will recover and become capable of seeing beauty of life once more. It's happened before, it will happen again, I'm sure. When someone leaves, it's because someone else is about to arrive - I'll find love again.
~Paulo Coelho

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